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I’ll begin with a confession: I can’t stop comparing the different ways of working between Spain and the UK, I can’t. I am even writing about it. I know I shouldn´t be letting this happens! But I must admit that I’ve been struggling with comparison over these past months.
If something useful comes out of all these long talks with my mind, it is that it has made me think about the type of person / therapist that I want to be and the type I don’t.
Among the many intangible things that I´m taking back with me, perhaps, the most valuable is to have been able to observe and learn from the qualities of the UK Psychology professionals whom I have shared some experience. But I´d like to focus on something that stands out above many other discoveries: the interest in lifelong skills learning these people seem to have. If I thought skills-building and professional development was something highly recommended, today I consider it to be mandatory.
The job of a psychologist requires big doses of personal work over the years. Let us be clear about it; a good therapist should be able to work and progress on certain issues prior to and in parallel with working with clients. I am not referring only to a perfectly structured and comprehensive University curriculum (we know a lot about never ending, lengthy and full of theory curricula in Spain). No, I mean a personal job-based training, focusing on self-knowledge, awareness of professional values and training in therapeutic skills (as a minimum). However, this is not always a must according to the legislation of each country, so each professional has to rely on their own ethical “headlights”, or “that thing called values” to become the therapist who wants to be beyond the minimum required.
I have enjoyed find out that the practice of therapist supervision is one of the many good habits of therapists (mostly ACT therapist) I have met in this country engage in. Unfortunately, this is not a widespread practice in my country (comparative framing hitting hard now!)
I am not blaming the Spanish therapists. The discussion deserves a more extensive reflection and we would have to look closely at the political interests and the educational system. Such as the predominance of an over-medicalised mental health model where clinical or counseling psychologists have no real place. Or overly lengthy and non-practical graduate and postgraduate studies. A big mess, I know…but, while we wait for all these issues to be fixed, we should be able to tackle this problem in a critical way from a minimum sense of rigor and individual responsibility. What happens when we become mental health professionals in the public or private spheres? Are we done with our training or are we willing to keep on studying and learning from others? As I see it, this leads to a certain taboo and concealment of our own barriers and formative needs, so much so that we frequently cover them with a mixture of arrogance and ignorance that, seen from this perspective, is very sad and not particularly enriching.
Skills training, along with advances in the knowledge of therapeutic methodology from solid theoretical models, could be improved with the help of figures such as the clinical supervisor, either individually or within supervision groups. My brief but inspiring experience in “ACT SPACE” group, a London based peer supervision group, facilitated by Michael Sinclair (www.city-psychology.co.uk), Joe Oliver, Emily Griffiths, Emma O’Donoghue and John Boorman has been a great discovery that I really appreciate. I’ve learnt much from attending that could not be summarised in a single entry of this blog but will influence me in many reflections and changes in my practices from now on. Once in Spain, one of the first changes will be joining a solid supervision group and seeking an individual supervisor.
Since I began by confessing something, I’ll finish now with a wish – a call to learning, a defense of being supervised, of embracing our own vulnerability, of being able to contact what we may not like to be aware of, to let ourselves feel shame and embarrassment while training, to let us fail many times, so that only then we could do better with our clients in session. This leads to the recognition that therapy doesn’t place us on a plane of superiority over anyone, but of equivalence, mutual enrichment and a consciousness of what really matters.
Hello again! In my previous post I introduced myself and explained a little bit about what is bringing me to the UK this summer along with the first contacts with my own language barriers. Today I´d like to write why I´m enjoying so much participating in some cool and fulfilling professional meetings that have certainly reinvigorated my passion for my work and for ACT.
My “trip” began attending the Association of Contextual Behavioral Science World Conference in Seville in June. This was a good opportunity to switch on to “ACT mode” and get to know other people’s work. This was the first time I attended an international ACT congress, everything was new to me, but the main things kept in my mind as highlights are these:
In July, I was invited to join Joe Oliver to one of the places where he was going to talk about ACT and RFT. That was at the British Psychology Society DCP East of England Conference in Cambridge and it sounded so good to me! Combining learning and travel is one of my favorite ways of spending a day (and a life). I´d never been to Cambridge and was also a great day for knowing the therapist´s work in the UK.
Again, many people from different backgrounds, working in NHS settings, got together within a proper Cambridge college : ) – listening and discussing concepts such as acceptance, compassion and the foundations of behavior and language from an ACT / RTF perspective.
It was so nice to observe myself there, noticing and experiencing my own communication and understanding limits and barriers, trying to absorb everything that was being said. When I felt I had lost the track, I enjoyed being aware of something I just loved: the way British people act in terms of social behavior and respect between them (rules, times, speaking turns, tone of voice when speaking, use of language, calm when talking and when moving…). If only I could just bring all that to my work settings in Spain – it would be very significant for me and a big and better change to start with. I´ll just give a try to some changes in the way I do active listening in meetings and sessions (big challenge for me!) and I´ll improve my tasks and appointments organization techniques, these two things are core skills on a psychologist work and people here is doing really well.
It was a big comfort for me too to get to speak with other colleagues in Cambridge who, like me, are feeling drained and exhausted sometimes after having worked as therapist for a while. Feelings of not being strong enough to manage this job have been one of the disturbing and quite secret thoughts I have had in the last year. But when we were working in groups, there was such an open and honest vibe that I decided I wanted to share this openly and without shame. I talked about how I am genuinely feeling being a therapist sometimes. It is funny that I had to come to the UK to talk about me, my struggles, and be able not to get some rejection comments back, telling me I should know already how not to have these fears and feelings anymore. Discovering that many of us are feeling the same too AND we are still working, learning, and helping others has put me closer to this country and what I am learning from its people.
The BACBP Conference in Manchester has been the 3rd Conference I have attended so far, can’t complain at all. Joe Oliver and Richard Bennett had some workshops there and I went to see what they had prepared.
This time the topic was VALUES and the way therapists could use them to work with their clients. I am familiar with the values issue but I was still interested in seeing what new material this conference could bring, and, yes, one more time: surprise!. When I thought I was just there to, maybe, learn some more nice theory about values, what I got went further than this. One of the main features of training I am enjoying and realizing is how important it is that there is a smart mix of theory, persona lexperiences thought guided exercises and, after that, accurate and practical tips and exercises for clinical work with patients. This is exactly what all those lot of people who attended the class got from the workshop. No single part of the workshop could work without the other, so, again, value learning for me that needs to be remembered when designing trainings: theory, personal exercises and client exercises. Although these three aspects may not be enough to create a good talk or training, since the personal characteristics and skills of the communicators were excellent too. I feel so envious…
In the following post I will go deepen in the values that I am finding more relevant in psychologists. All these experiences (conferences, meetings, talks, etc) have really made me see the core importance of embracing some ways of approaching my work and business and I don´t want to miss all this reflections now that I just have been able to see, with some perspective, some keys points about who I am and who I want to be as a psychologist.
See you soon then!