Four tips for working with clients who are stuck in the pain of rejection – Jennifer Kemp

In this short video Jennifer Kemp shares four tips for working with clients who are stuck in the pain of rejection:

Help them develop skills for self soothing and self regulation
Work with them to heal the trauma from past painful experiences
Help clients make sense of what happened
Help them find safe supportive relationships and create safety in spaces where they can feel like they belong

This video is taken from our ‘Expert tips for ACT’ playlist on YouTube:

JENNIFER KEMP is a privately practicing Clinical Psychologist living in Adelaide, Australia. She specialises in helping people struggling with perfectionism, anxiety, OCD, eating disorders, weight management, and chronic illness, and many of her clients are also neurodivergent. She integrates ACT and functional analysis with compassion-focused approaches and her lived experience to help her clients live fulfilling and meaningful lives.

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